Regardless of the reason, if your spouse asks for a divorce, your life will be turned upside down. Despite the roller coaster of emotions and variety of challenges facing you, it’s critical to take a step back to assess your situation. This will allow you to make the right moves at the right time.

Here are three things you should do if your spouse asks for a divorce:

  • Don’t beg: Even if you want to keep your marriage together, you don’t want to beg your spouse. It’s okay to consider your options, such as counseling, but begging with them to reconsider isn’t likely to improve your situation.
  • Don’t bottle up your feelings: There are people who want to help you during this difficult time. From your friends and family to your co-workers, open up to others about what you’re going through. And if necessary, consult with a therapist who can help walk you through this difficult time.
  • Get your finances in order: There may be some gray area until the divorce process is finalized, but you can still close joint accounts, open individual accounts and create a budget.

It doesn’t matter if you saw it coming or your spouse surprised by you by asking for a divorce, don’t wait to take action to better your situation.

Once you’re clear that your spouse wants to divorce, learn more about the process, the challenges and how to protect your legal rights. When you do all these things, it’s easier to maintain a clear mind as you face one of the most challenging times of your life.