Discussing your divorce can help you process your situation and feel a bit of relief. However, sharing too many details or giving information to the wrong people may complicate your situation.
Knowing how to talk about your divorce and which details to leave out can give you peace of mind and help you maintain your integrity. This decision may also enable you to move forward and leave your past behind.
Risks to your privacy
Even though you may feel comfortable sharing certain aspects of your personal life with people in your circle, your openness could compromise your privacy. Falsely trusting that everyone will keep your experiences confidential may result in embarrassment or humiliation if your story starts to work its way around. Talking with mutual friends of you and your ex is one area where you should exercise caution in choosing what to share. It is also best to use care when discussing your divorce with coworkers.
Keeping private details to yourself can help you move forward with your life without the pressing concerns of feeling scrutinized or judged. Additionally, you can show civility in the way you handle your affairs so you can maintain a good reputation.
Risks to your emotional health
Coming out of a divorce may mean it is time to create new boundaries for yourself. According to Psychology Today, one of the primary reasons people overshare details is because of a lack of solid boundaries. You can prevent the disappointment of telling too much when you set boundaries for yourself and those within your circle.
Decide ahead of time what you feel comfortable sharing about your divorce. You may even consider writing a brief elevator version of events so you can avoid fumbling your words when asked questions about your relationship. Setting boundaries and respecting your need for privacy can help you protect your emotional well-being.